Dear Angel, It is sad to witness relationships that fail because of distance. Somehow it is true that a neighbor is better than a brother who is far away. We have seen how the loss of communication can transform longing into nothingness. I know it is unfair to tell you that it is your fault that you got yourself into an illicit affair with Aaron. But I do not want to tell you either that it wasn’t your fault. You have brought this to yourself and I believe that the best way to deal with this is to face the consequence it brings and just be responsible for it. Aaron at least deserves to know that you are carrying his child and even if it is difficult to say, James should also know about Aaron’s baby. Tell him about it now so he can have more time to think and search his heart for answers. Is it utterly painful for James but he was also to blame for this. But now is not the time to point fingers and blame each other for what you both did and failed to do. Right now, it is important to search your hearts for a room for forgiveness and acceptance. If neither of you can find it then I think there would be nothing more to discuss. I remember being asked how to find out if a man is really meant for a person. It is very hard to see that but one thing is for sure, the person who will love us even if there is no reason to anymore is the person who is meant for us. There is no mistake so wrong that it cannot be forgiven. For those who love, there is always forgiveness and for those who forgive, there is always a fresh start. Angel, I hope that you and James would find that space to forgive and so you can start building your lives again from the shattered remains of the past.