Let me share my piece of a little less than normal story. Call me Mykie. I am a lesbian working as an engineer for one of the biggest property developers. We are all girls in the family. Back in elementary, I noticed my attraction to girls which I breezed through my adolescent years.
Joe's Advice:
Dear Mykie,
I know of many women like you who have vowed to live their lives according to what they believe is their destiny. We have heard of lesbian relationships that have lasted for years, about couples who grow old in partnerships founded on genuine friendship and love. I have always believed that no one should judge homosexuals in their quest for what they justify as normal relationships. The love that they feel for their partners is the same kind of affection that any of us would feel for the opposite sex. The passion, the intensity and the genuineness of that feeling are the same, except that the other is focused on someone of the same sex, in a relationship which our society doesn’t explicitly condone.
In any relationship, there are moments when one wakes up to a realization that he or she is no longer capable of living up to his or her side of the bargain. There is no permanence in human relationships. It is only our bond with God that will remain unchanged. Gayle spent many years of her life with you and she thought it was perfect. But when she came out in the open, she realized who she really was and what she really wanted to be. That was her moment of realization, but it was your moment of loss.
Affairs of the third kind don’t always have happy endings not because the couples didn’t share love. Perhaps they shared that love for the wrong reasons. God has created man and woman to complement each other in a relationship that will find its fulfillment in a family. God never intended a man to have a family with another man, or a woman with another woman.
Everything that happens in our lives is a calling from God. Even during the most difficult times, God works in us to strengthen and make us better persons. There is nothing crooked that HE cannot straighten. There is no mistake that HE cannot forgive. There is no life that HE cannot change. All of us are cleansed in a process of pain that may sometimes seem unbearable. But God never fails to give us the courage to go through it. Mykie, it’s true. Life is too short. Don’t waste it in tears and misery. Be happy, for no matter how many times we fall, God will always give us a fresh start in finding the right person, the right way, in the right relationship.
