Dear Joe,
Hi! Good day to you. I’m Nica married and have 3 kids. I got pregnant when I was 17. My hubby & I started to live together after I gave birth to our first child. Our problem starts when I was pregnant to our 2nd child. He changed a lot, he is hurting me not only emotionally but also physically even I am pregnant. He even told me that I am not the girl he’s dreaming of. He had a relationship with a prostitute reason for him not to stay home. And when I found this out he asked for forgiveness & promise to stop doing such thing. Yeah, he stopped the relationship with that girl but he didn’t stop hurting me physically. Until I decided to leave him with our son but he asked again for forgiveness & have a second chance. I gave him again the chance that he wanted hoping that he will change. But, after a month or two he is doing it again even having a relationship with another girl. I felt hopeless & I really want to give up that time but I can’t because of our kids & because I really love him. So, I sacrifice a lot with all the pain he’s giving me.
After I gave birth to our 2nd child I decided to go back to school & finish my nursing course. By then I met Mark. Mark was my classmate for 2 years. He is sweet, loving, a perfect gentleman. We became close & we became best friends until we found out that we are already falling in love with each other.
We had a relationship for almost 4 years. He also planned of marrying me & give his name to my kids but I didn’t accept his proposal because honestly I’m still hoping that everything will be fine again between me & my hubby. And because of that we broke up. I gave up the man who gave me the love that I’ve been dreaming of.
Last November 2008 my husband surprised me with a civil wedding 3 days after his arrival. I was so happy that time until he found out about the relationship I had with Mark, he found it out a day after our wedding. I was shocked & explained everything to him but he didn’t listen.
I tried to make everything ok. I prove him that he & our kids is the most important person in my life. But it’s not working. He keeps on hurting me physically & emotionally until I got pregnant again with our 3rd baby. I thought he already forgave me for what I did because he acted like I’m already forgiven. He took care of me & treated me the way I want him to treat me. But last November, he has to leave again for work as a seaman. I gave birth to our baby girl without him. He was so excited that time & me either. He’s always calling & chatting with me telling me how much he loves me, our kids & our family. But things became different again.
Last February he is asking for an annulment because he realized that he can’t forget the thing that I’ve done & he didn’t love me anymore.. He’s even calling me a “bitch” which I can’t take. Hearing that word from my husband… Sobrang sakit!
Help me Joe... I really don’t know what to do. I’m so confused. He’s not even talking to me. Why he is always hurting me? Hndi na ba talaga nya ako mahal? Or should I say minahal ba nya ako?
What will I do Joe? Do I need to give up the relationship & the marriage we had for 12 years? Naaawa ako sa kids if ever we end this up.
I need your good advice Joe. I don’t want to lose our family… Help me please…
Thanks & God Bless…

Always,
NICA